The F*CK-IT List

When I went home in March, my Aunt Diane passed away suddenly, mid-sentence while eating yogurt. We were all so shocked. Couldn’t wrap our minds around it–still can’t. But it reminded me that there is no time like the present and although it’s cliche, it is true.

I’m not fond of the term “bucket list.” It implies that there is impending doom around the corner, and life can be over in an instant. So until I come up with a better term, I’m going with “f*ck it list.” Because, well, why the hell not. It’s time to say F*ck it and do the things that make you happiest. Go on that dream safari, become a pool shark, whatever it is, just go out there and do it!



  1. Live/work on a game farm somewhere in Africa for at least a month
  2. Go to the Skeleton Coast in Namibia
  3. See the lemurs in Madagascar
  4. Visit Monkeyland in South Africa
  5. See the Gelada baboons in Ethiopia’s Simien Mountains National ParkBucket/F@*k-it List
  6. Stay in a riad in Marrakech


  1. Attend a full moon party in Thailand
  2. Sleep in an overwater bungalow in the Maldives
  3. Stay in Khao Sok National Park in a floating campBucket/F@*k-it List
  4. See the Japanese macaques in the Jigokudani Monkey Park in winter
  5. Stay in a ryokan in the Japanese countryside
  6. Go naked in a Japanese onsen
  7. Visit the Toraja people of Sulawesi and see the death balconies and a buffalo market
  8. Snorkel in the clear waters of the Perhentian Islands off the east coast of Malaysia


  1. Go to Escape Theme Park-ride the largest water slide and do the aerobat and slingshot
  2. Visit Habitat on Penang Hill
  3. Go into Kapitan Keling MosqueBucket/F@*-it List
  4. Go to Temple of Fine Arts
  5. See the Penang Avatar Secret Garden at night
  6. Penang 3d Trick Art Museum and Upside-Down Museum
  7. Visit all the speakeasies here:
    • Manchu
    • Le
    • The Bund
    • Secret Door
    • 12 Senses
    • Magazine 63
    • Good Friends Club
    • Norm/Noct
    • Room 495


  1. Go rum tasting in Cuba
  2. Carnival in Trinidad and Tobago


  1. Hang glide over Pamukkale hot springs in Turkey
  2. Sail around Croatia


  1. Go on a tiger safari in India
  2. Dance on the beach in Goa
  3. Stay in an old-world opulent 5-star hotel in Jaipur
  4. Attend the Pushkcar Camel FairBucket/F@*k-it List

Middle East

  1. Stay in a Bedouin camp in Wadi Rum Jordan
  2. See Petra at night
  3. Ride a camel in the desert of Dubai and
  4. Go sand boarding in Dubai
  5. Spend three months traveling in Israel
  6. Visit a traditional Hamman in Turkey
  7. Go to Cyprus and see the wildflowers and go wine tasting (just got back from there)

North America

  1. Attend Dia De Los Muertos in MexicoBucket/F@*k-it List
  2. See the butterfly migration in central Mexico


  1. See the mudmen and other tribes in Papua New Guinea
  2. Go on a bird tour of Papua New Guinea
  3. Attend a cultural festival in Papua New Guinea (Tufi Tapa Tattoo Festival, Goroka Show, Hagen Show)
  4. Swim with humpback whales in Tonga

South America

  1. Carnival in RioBucket/F@*k-it List
  2. Stay at the Skylodge transparent capsule off the side of a mountain in Peru
  3. Do the Via Ferrata and Zipline while in Peru

Other Travel Related

  1. Take a slow train trip to see a new country (Trans-Mongolian? Trans-Siberian?)
  2. Slow travel for a year, three months at a time
  3. Stay in a yurtBucket/F@*k-it List
  4. Sleep in an ice hotel
  5. See the northern lights in Greenland
  6. Go on an Earthwatch Expedition
  7. Live in Phuket or some island with clear blue water
  8. Also live in the EU


  1. Become an entrepreneur again
  2. Do something I love for a living
  3. Pocket over $5000 per month with new career path
  4. Earn over 100K per year
  5. Be proficient in SEO
  6. Take a copywriting course
  7. Finish my Nomadic Matt blog and Location Rebel courses
  8. Be recognized as an authority in my field
  9. Become a freelance writer and make regular money doing it
  10. Be location independent
  11. Create passive income
  12. Write for another travel magazine/website
  13. Get a paid public speaking gig (conquer my fear)
  14. Collaborate with a bigwig in my field
  15. Be a mentor
  16. Build up my “As Featured In” or “Media” portfolio
  17. Find a side hustle
  18. Become proficient at Photoshop or Lightroom
  19. Build Sand in My Curls blog to
    • 1000+ followers
    • 10,000+ followers


  1. Give $1000 of my own earnings to a charity
  2. Make enough money to help my loved ones
  3. Give money annually to a charity
  4. Volunteer on a regular basis
  5. Go on a volunteer “vacation”
  6. Help build a home
  7. Volunteer for disaster relief
  8. Buy someone’s groceries

Unique Experiences/Hobbies

  1. Take a beginners wine tasting course in France
  2. Learn to make cheese from a fromagerBucket/F@*k-it List
  3. Take horse riding lessons
  4. Become a master marksman
  5. Learn to use a pottery wheel
  6. Take a make-up artist class
  7. Join the Peace Corps or something like it
  8. Learn a new language
  9. Take a skiing lesson
  10. Get my Italian passport
  11. Be in a Hollywood movie
  12. Renew our vows on an exotic beach somewhere
  13. Get a bespoke wedding dress made
  14. Learn how NOT to kill plants
  15. Grow a garden with veggies and herbs
  16. Have pygmy goats-but I’m probably allergic
  17. Go to a surf campBucket/F@*k-it List
  18. Go rappelling
  19. Watch a meteor shower
  20. Learn to ride a scooter

What’s on your bucket/f*ck-it/dream list?

How do you keep yourself accountable or stay motivated for the things you want in life? I’m all ears.

Reply in the comments and let me know.


  1. Jeroen

    #11&#12 are indeed nice to do. Not just once, but multiple times. Best season? Winter time.
    Haven’t you meanwhile completed #17?

    • Kirsten Raccuia

      Hi Jeroen!

      Thanks for reading! Next time we plan Japan, we’ll have to get your input!

      Yes, I have done #17. I need to update this list now that it is year-end.

      What’s on your f*ck-it list?

  2. Nova

    Wow – I love love love this concept… so much better than the bucket list. If you ever need company for any these line items, let me know… you have some really good ideas that I would not say no to (even if they aren’t on my own f-ck it list.) May I also submit to you to come to Helsinki and do traditional ice swimming and sauna? It’s on me.

    • Kirsten Raccuia

      Nova! I will take you up on both offers! Let’s do it! Which one first?

  3. Eric Hungerford

    Hi Kirsten,
    I like your wish list. Let me know when you want to be a master marksman. I am a certified master marksmen instructor, taught it for 5 years to JROTC students and others.
    It’s always good to have a list of goals. For us, it centers on travel. For others, it centers on accomplishments (build a better mouse trap, be president, etc.). I think for others, it is to make an impact on the world around us. Perhaps by helping people or causes. I helped my family decorate my fathers grave this memorial day (1st time for me as I was always somewhere else before), and it gave me pause. Will I be remembered? Do I want to be remembered? For what?
    Some times I feel like the boy tossing starfish back into the ocean from a beach filled with starfish. My single actions will not mean a lot, but to that particular starfish, it means the world. Who can I help or how can I make a difference as we travel. This summer we are working on our family farm and maybe (well Larisa says we will) buying a place in Italy. I guess I love helping and being a mentor. I really liked teaching English in Vietnam. Maybe that’s my wish list? 🙂
    As always, keep up the good work. I enjoy reading your adventures……..and especially your misadventures!

    • Kirsten Raccuia

      Hi Eric,

      I am so glad you enjoy reading my blog. That means a lot to me.

      I will certainly let you know when I’m ready for my marksmen classes, prob need to be in the US for that.

      What an honor for you to be with family and decorate his grave on Memorial Day. That must have been very moving.

      I think every single action taken means a lot, maybe it’s hard to see the direct result right away, but it is there. Continue to be a mentor, teach English online to children, do whatever big or small actions you can!

      I can’t wait to hear more about this home in Italy! You know “happy wife, happy life 😃”!

  4. Caitlin Richman

    Love this and you 😘😘

  5. Susan

    Hey Kirsten
    We met one night in a bar I’m KL. I’ve done quite a few of the things on your list and I agree with your philosophy about life. Live it, but leave something behind each adventure to benefit others.
    Would love to enjoy a wine and a chat one day Sue

    • Kirsten Raccuia

      Hi Susan,
      I remember you! Thanks for reading my blog! Would love to meet up for a wine one day and hear about your adventures. Let me know if you come to Penang.

  6. Elyse Sacco

    Hi Kirsten, that was quite an impressive list you have. I hope you get to experience all the things that you want in your life. I have a fear of flying. That is flying out of my comfort zone. I hope I can MoveOn someday from this fear

    • Kirsten Raccuia

      A lot of people are afraid to get out of their comfort zone. It isn’t easy. Try to take small steps towards a bigger goal every day. The fear won’t go away unless you do things to push it away. Don’t’ let it overcome your life or you might never be able to move on.💕



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